28/04/2015
建立關係需要教育
Mei Ling
Mei Ling
廖吳美玲Mei Ling,做為電視真人騷《盛女愛作戰》幕後顧問一夜爆紅,因其經驗豐富,點評中肯直接,且手握優質筍盤無數,被譽為鑽石媒人,備受好評。其創立的香港婚姻介紹所Hong Kong Matchmakers。
Mei Ling曾於紐約婚姻介紹學院就讀,成為美、德註冊婚配師,創立香港婚姻介紹所,有別於其他婚介所,Mei Ling所設門檻很高,專為香港單身高學歷人士作婚姻配對,創辦16年,成功撮合的高層男女不下數百對。
Mei Ling曾於世界頂級大企業任要職,包括貿發局法蘭克福貿易顧問等。曾獲歐盟市場開拓及業務發展比賽冠軍,成為首位女性及華人獲得此殊榮。亦曾創立自己的時裝生意,在高峰時賣盤。
著有《How to Find A Husband》。 Man Manual, Navigating Relationships鑽石媒人Mei Ling
小緣圈(MeilingCircle)在職業訓練局的支持下,與路德會的家庭輔導中心合作推出關係教育的課程。作為一個實踐企業社會責任的活動,課程將涵蓋離婚率高、結婚率低等時下的香港社會問題,並由今年的4月25日起在位於灣仔的高峰進修學院開辦,每月開課,歡迎大眾參與的,課程所得之收益將惠及香港專業教育學院。
除了請來一班專業、富經驗的人生教練主持課堂,我們更邀請到在中國哲學及文學方面享負盛名的教授及講師到臨,分享對我們影響深遠的道德觀,以及部分作為中國人應引以自豪的傳統核心價值。換句話說,我們將回歸基本。
科技為我們的世界帶來了驚人的利益,不過不是生活中的每一方面都能應用上科技,特別對價值與情感而言。舉例說,數碼世代重新定義的「關係」只是一堆空話。年輕人緊隨其行只為跟潮流,其他人或高興地,或不情願地,又或是不知情地跟隨。一個按鈕可以上一秒交友,下一秒絕交,「關係」在Facebook的世界貶低成一堆數據。難怪我們身處難題之中。跟大家分享一些例子。
我們在學校學習英文、中文、數學及多方面的知識,可是對於關係,我們所學無多。以上的例子總括了我們不能漠視的嚴峻情況。人們對「關係」的看法與「關係」的本質之間明顯地存在一道鴻溝。要急切地扭轉劣勢不單單因為它是不可持續的,更因為它不斷地蠶食我們的基本價值,以致道德崩壞,變成一個無人想踏進的可怕世界。
課程涵蓋大部分的課題,由探討欲望與需求,為個人定位及提升自我價值放下傲慢,以至培養關係、自由度及氣量,從解決衝突及維持穩健的關係著手全面解決問題。單身者、已婚者均能獲益,課程是為所有人而設的。
只要這個課程可以替一個人挽回一段關係,便值得我們投放心血。
(按:中文內容乃翻譯及撮寫版本)
Relationship Education
As a CSR program to address prevalent social problems in Hong Kong such as high divorce rate, low marriage rate… etc, etc…MeilingCircle, supported by VTC, and in collaboration with the Lutheran (路德會)Family Counselling Centre, will be launching a full curriculum of Relationship Education at the PEAK College in Wanchai, starting 25th April 2015, and on a monthly basis there afterwards. This course is opened to the public, all proceeds to benefit IVE schools.
Apart from a team of highly qualified and experienced modern counselors, we have also invited reputable professors and lecturers of Chinese Philosophy and Chinese Literature to talk about our most important moral principles as well as some of our traditional core values, which we as Chinese, should all feel immensely proud to learn. In other words, we are going back to basics.
Technology has brought amazing benefits to our world, but we cannot apply technology to every aspect of life, especially not in terms of values and emotions. For instance, the digital era has redefined “Relationship” in new verbiage and many follow suit. Young people probably do so because it is trendy, others may abide happily, reluctantly or unknowingly. One would collect “friends” as one would stamps, and just as quickly “unfriend” them at a push of a button, case in point and “Relationship” is hence being relegated to a statistic on Facebook. No wonder we are in such trouble. Let’s look at some examples:
We study English, Chinese, Mathematics and everything else in school but we never study about relationships. The summary above recapitulates a rather dire situation we can ill afford to ignore. There is obviously a disconnect between people’s perception of what “relationships” are, and what true relationships should be. We have an urgent imperative to reverse this trend not least because it is unsustainable, but continuous erosion of our fundamental values will lead to moral bankruptcy, a world of 3D horror nobody would want.
The course curriculum covers everything from the exploration of one’s wants as versus one’s needs, the positioning of “self” and the enhancement of self worth versus arrogance, the cultivation of a relationship, latitude and forbearance, all the way through to conflict resolution and durable sustainability of relationships. For singles, for married people, for everybody.
If only this course would help just one person to save one relationship, it would have been well worth our effort.
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