28/06/2018

他總是很被動……是慢熱？還是裝作若無其事？

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妮洛
妮洛
浸過幾年鹹水的港女一名，喜歡港男的同聲同氣，卻不算特別鍾情港男。
愛幻想，愛浪漫，貪玩又愛簡單的雙重性格，喜歡戀愛也享受自由。
最想擁有的不過是簡單的愛情，而簡單的往往最難 ...。
港女講男
隔周二更新

　　他們約會過數個月，一直戀人未滿...

　　「你哋發展咗一段時間，未一齊呀？」想問的該不只是我。

　　「同佢有出去，亦keep住日日WhatsApp，相處係唔錯。」她淡淡的說：「但佢太被動，我唔主動搵佢，佢都唔會message我，更加唔會主動約。」

　　出去又會出，加連綿不絕的WhatsApp，沒意思，沒可能啦。

　　「我有問佢，我哋係咪發展緊，佢答我係，但其實咩表示都無。」

　　「你有無俾signal人㗎？」到我插嘴了。

　　「我暗示過，又俾哂機會，佢都無咩回應，唉...唔通要我追佢，開口表白咩，哈。」

　　感情膠著不就是男方被動得有如無動於衷，大家一直不上不下。這種人遇過不少啦，明明相處幾好也心知有feel，但千行萬行始終無下文。可能平時被縱慣寵慣，事事送到埋口。

　　雖說這年代已不分男女出手，但每當你明示、暗示過後，對方都毫無表示，繼續懶懶行，等人行多步，找他約他，誰都會無癮吧。難不成要女人全做主動，把話說出口，相約兼表白，牽他手再投懷送抱，才夠明顯嗎？！是他太慢熱，還是裝作若無其事？喂，接受、不接受，好歹也說一句吧。

　　沒有誰想把自己往一個冷冰冰的人上貼，再主動都會累，再喜歡都會冷掉，既然他樂於繼續被動得沒心沒肺，做開主動的人也該識趣離開。

　　「我都有猶疑，如果我再俾多啲耐性，結果會唔會唔同呢？」她嘆了口氣。

　　等一個不知有無可能等到的答案，還不捲席而逃麼，太被動的男人一點都不吸引！

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